Comments on: Darn that dream http://meredith.wolfwater.com/wordpress/2005/02/05/darn-that-dream/ A librarian, writer and educator reflecting on the profession and the tools we use to serve our patrons Mon, 06 Feb 2012 09:11:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 By: Flo Williams http://meredith.wolfwater.com/wordpress/2005/02/05/darn-that-dream/comment-page-1/#comment-811 Flo Williams Mon, 07 Feb 2005 21:57:04 +0000 /?p=152#comment-811 <!-- spamk : Waaaay too many links: 0 --> <!-- spamk : Comment on VERY old post. --> <!-- spamk : KARMA: -2 --> <!-- spamk : Treatment: captcha --> <!-- spamk : Captcha expired, lowering karma and scaling again... --> <!-- spamk : KARMA: -4 --> <!-- spamk : Treatment: purgatory --> I work in the workforce development field, in other words, we help people get jobs. And there is nothing else you can do, but just suffer the rejection. All the comments so far are on track. If it helps at all, it happens to everyone. Just take some extra time to be good to yourself. Find ways to keep in touch with that library. They probably mean it when they say if/when they have another opening they would like to give it to you. Keep the relationship as current as you can. I would be careful about asking much about what you did wrong. That sounds kind of whiney, and most jobs will not tell you anyway. If you had a good rapport with someone that is your equal, send links of articles you think they would like, etc. In other words maintain relationships as best you can. I am just a student starting out and sure I will in the same boat in the near future without all your expertise. Hope something in that area opens up for you.





I work in the workforce development field, in other words, we help people get jobs. And there is nothing else you can do, but just suffer the rejection. All the comments so far are on track. If it helps at all, it happens to everyone. Just take some extra time to be good to yourself. Find ways to keep in touch with that library. They probably mean it when they say if/when they have another opening they would like to give it to you. Keep the relationship as current as you can. I would be careful about asking much about what you did wrong. That sounds kind of whiney, and most jobs will not tell you anyway. If you had a good rapport with someone that is your equal, send links of articles you think they would like, etc. In other words maintain relationships as best you can. I am just a student starting out and sure I will in the same boat in the near future without all your expertise. Hope something in that area opens up for you.

]]> By: Brian http://meredith.wolfwater.com/wordpress/2005/02/05/darn-that-dream/comment-page-1/#comment-721 Brian Sun, 06 Feb 2005 05:00:06 +0000 /?p=152#comment-721 Really sorry to hear that you didn't get that job, Meredith. Sounded perfect for you. Hey, have you tried alcohol after rejections? It works wonders ;) Honestly, I think you have to be enthusiastic on job interviews, even if it leads to soul crushing depression. The nature of the beast and all. One thing that helps me is to follow up with a given company, even if I get rejected or the job. First I ask the interviewer to share with me his reasons for turning me down, and tips on what I may have done to improve my chances. Then I ask if he knows of any contacts that may be able to assist me in my job search. In my experience, interviewers are usually more than happy to help you out, once they've rejected you. Maybe it's just guilt, but it works. At least that way, you can get something useful out of the process, even when it doesn't lead to a job. Anyways, hope you have better luck in the near future. Really sorry to hear that you didn’t get that job, Meredith. Sounded perfect for you. Hey, have you tried alcohol after rejections? It works wonders ;) Honestly, I think you have to be enthusiastic on job interviews, even if it leads to soul crushing depression. The nature of the beast and all. One thing that helps me is to follow up with a given company, even if I get rejected or the job. First I ask the interviewer to share with me his reasons for turning me down, and tips on what I may have done to improve my chances. Then I ask if he knows of any contacts that may be able to assist me in my job search. In my experience, interviewers are usually more than happy to help you out, once they’ve rejected you. Maybe it’s just guilt, but it works. At least that way, you can get something useful out of the process, even when it doesn’t lead to a job. Anyways, hope you have better luck in the near future.

]]> By: Joy Weese Moll http://meredith.wolfwater.com/wordpress/2005/02/05/darn-that-dream/comment-page-1/#comment-717 Joy Weese Moll Sat, 05 Feb 2005 18:12:24 +0000 /?p=152#comment-717 <!-- spamk : Waaaay too many links: 1 --> <!-- spamk : KARMA: -2 --> <!-- spamk : Treatment: captcha --> <!-- spamk : Captcha expired, lowering karma and scaling again... --> <!-- spamk : KARMA: -4 --> <!-- spamk : Treatment: purgatory --> That sucks. I also fret over the enthusiasm/rejection cycle. I'm with Dorothea that it can help to revel in the grumpiness, at least for a day or two. Insist on being self-indulgent. The alternative, to curb the enthusiasm in an attempt to lessen the rejection, probably wouldn't work anyway. And the enthusiasm is both too important and too precious to mess with. As soon as possible, I try to figure out a new thing to be enthusiastic about--which you seem to be doing by rearranging your Chicago fantasy. Enjoying the cultural life of Chicago for a few months sounds pretty good the way you've put it! --Joy




That sucks. I also fret over the enthusiasm/rejection cycle. I’m with Dorothea that it can help to revel in the grumpiness, at least for a day or two. Insist on being self-indulgent.

The alternative, to curb the enthusiasm in an attempt to lessen the rejection, probably wouldn’t work anyway. And the enthusiasm is both too important and too precious to mess with.

As soon as possible, I try to figure out a new thing to be enthusiastic about–which you seem to be doing by rearranging your Chicago fantasy. Enjoying the cultural life of Chicago for a few months sounds pretty good the way you’ve put it!

–Joy

]]> By: Dorothea Salo http://meredith.wolfwater.com/wordpress/2005/02/05/darn-that-dream/comment-page-1/#comment-714 Dorothea Salo Sat, 05 Feb 2005 16:42:27 +0000 /?p=152#comment-714 Aw, crud. I really wanted you to get that one. I confess I just give myself permission to be growly and unhappy. It passes faster that way than if I'm also mad at myself for not taking the rejection better. Aw, crud. I really wanted you to get that one.

I confess I just give myself permission to be growly and unhappy. It passes faster that way than if I’m also mad at myself for not taking the rejection better.

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